view from our home

When It Is Right

Earlier this year, we started a search for our new home. We had a pretty big laundry list of desirables. After some time searching, we found one that fit our bill. Right number of bedrooms. Extra storage. Close to the bus stop since we only had one car. Financially sound development. The only negative was that it needed some serious remodeling. The home had been a rental and was neglected for too long. We had done the remodel thing before, and honestly didn’t want to again. But we thought we could get a bargain due to the shape of the house.

We were wrong.

We paid for an inspection before making what we thought was a fair offer. The owner did not think so. For a month we played the offer/counter-offer game until we realized we were never going to agree on a price. Wasted time. Wasted energy. And wasted intuition. When I first saw the house, it didn’t feel right. I couldn’t say why but it was just off. But I tried to make it work. On paper it had what we wanted so I logically convinced myself that we should make an offer. I should have gone with my gut.

Or was this just a stalling tactic?

276You see, during the offer negotiation process we bought a second car. Because of this, when we resumed our search we could look in different locations as now being near public transportation was not as important. One property I saw listed for months was now in our consideration set. My realtor brought me to see it and on the spot, I arranged a viewing for the next day so my husband could come by. The house felt right to me. Just walking in I knew this was it. I knew I wanted to make an offer when I first stepped into the entrance. I had not seen the whole house and knew it was right. The day after my husband saw it, we made an offer and then accepted a reasonable counter offer in three days. From first viewing to down payment was one easy week. The home had everything we were looking for plus many extras that were phenomenal.

My intention for this article was to talk about following one’s intuition. But as this story played out there were many lessons.

Intuition: My intuition was right. In both homes I had immediate feelings – one positive, one negative. This was not logic, just a feeling. I did not consciously ask myself for an opinion. It was my gut telling me what felt like home. Learning to recognize and then act upon my intuition is still something I am working on. Sometimes I don’t recognize the feelings. Sometimes it is too scary to act upon what I feel. But in retrospect, my intuition has never steered me wrong.

Timing: For a while I beat myself up for not following my intuition about the first house and therefore having wasted so much time and energy on the wrong home. But could this process have been necessary? Could it be that we needed the time to purchase a second vehicle, so we could then open up our location search to consider the right home? Was there something we had to learn about patience and self-imposed deadlines? Sometimes obstacles, challenges, and wrong turns are not taking us off course, but are actually lining up the right thing.

Right Doesn’t Mean Easy: I started the idea for this post in July, when I thought we were going to close. Due to paperwork delays, our closing was pushed back and then pushed back further. Then the tropical storm hit. Then the earthquake in Mexico City caused further delays. Our goal was to be in our new home September 1. Instead we started renting our new home mid-September because we still hadn’t closed. What we expected to be a turnkey-just-walk-into-home, now had to be cleaned and repaired due to the storm. And then there were challenges getting utilities because we were not the official owner. It was not until mid-October that we finally closed and were settled in our home. It is still the perfect house for us and we are very blessed to be living here. But perfect and easy are not synonymous.

Do you know what it feels like to have a pop of intuition? Have you ever followed your intuition? Have you ever experienced the challenge of right-but-not-easy?

Eliana Gilad

Feminine Leadership with Eliana Gilad

Our current society is based on one and then the masses. There are rating systems, popularity contests, gurus and their followers. The culture has taught us to doubt ourselves and to look for answers and expertise outside of ourselves. We believe that there is just one top position and that is what we should strive and fight for. Our belief is that we need someone else to tell us how things work or that we are worthy. We have lost trust in our self and our self-knowledge.

Eliana Gilad
Eliana Gilad

Feminine Leadership is a style and a viewpoint. It is not anti-men. It is not part of any religion or belief system. Feminine Leadership is new, or actually, an old way to approach the world. Feminine Leadership teaches us to know our internal power release our need and desire for ratings. This style of leadership helps us to come back in touch with our strength, inherent power, and unique talents. In trusting ourselves and expressing our unique voice, we can then be a more collaborative society. We would stop competing on one aspect and would instead learn to recognize and respect our unique gifs and how they come together for the whole.

Eliana Gilad has been learning to trust her inherent power for more than 20 years. The columniation of her learnings will be a series of books called Miriam’s Secret based on the biblical figure who prophesized Moses’ birth. In the first book, Revealing the Ancient Wisdom of Feminine Leadership, Eliana explores what Feminine Leadership is and how all of us, men and women, can benefit from this point of view.

For years, Eliana has focused on Voices of Eden which is a living experiment to connect and express our inner voices. In uncovering, releasing, embracing, and sharing our unique voices we can come together. Through Voices of Eden and her books, Eliana helps us to reconnect with that inner knowing, with the intuition we were born with and to learn how to use it to make our lives more joyful and free.

Listen in to this eye-opening discussion and learn how it can change how you see the world.

It's My Life Inc.


“Form the intention to work on the problem, and then trust the part of you to work on it.”  You may be thinking that this came from the sequel to The Secret which describes how to use the Law of Attraction – set your intention then trust it will occur.  But no, this was the research conducted by the Kellogg School of Management.

The management article outlines research conducted on choosing.  What I learned from the research was:  1) simple decisions were better made cognitively, more complex decisions were better made going with one’s gut, 2) decisions were better made not when one concentrated on what to do, but by setting the intention to solve the problem then distracting the conscious mind.  What I heard in this research was proof that our essential selves, our body compasses, our internal source, and/or the god within is a better judge of what is right for us than our conscious mind.

How often do we think and think and think through a problem only to feel that the logical answer is not correct?  How often do we become sad and depressed when the logical, cognitive answer is not the one that makes our heart sing?  How often do we receive flashes of insight on what to do or say?  How often do we just “feel in our gut” what to do?

Back in the day, I pursued a career in theatre.  I enjoyed directing but I ran into trouble in graduate school.  The teachers wanted me to explain every choice I made.  Why did I have the actor move stage right?  Why is the actor using an Irish brogue?  Why did I choose a pink dress for the leading lady?  Why did I include an owl hooting in the last scene?  They wanted me to detail the reasoning for every nuance of the play.  I couldn’t.  I never made a conscious decision as to any element of the play.  In fact, any time I tried to be cleaver it did not turn out quite right.  Most of the time, I would just sit and read the script and as I read the words the play came alive to me.  I would just see the play – the actions, sound, lights, and sets – playing out in my mind’s eye.  All I did was write down what I saw.

The Kellogg article states, “For unconscious thought to work, it needs to be goal directed.  You need to form an intention to work on a problem, and then divert attentions elsewhere.  It’s all about intention and trust.”  Intention and trust are two powerful words.  Intention is very important.  All too often we go throughout life without direction, without goals, without a destination and then we are also disappointed that we do not have the life we desire.  To gain what we desire, we need to put out to the universe what it is that we want.  What is our intention?  What do we want to solve, gain, or lose?  By setting an intention, we are placing our order with the universe.

Intention is easy – we just need to remember to do it.  Trust is hard.  Trust means letting go of control and getting out of the driver’s seat.  Trust means accepting when things come to us and how they come.  Trust means more than believing but knowing that what we asked for we will receive.  Trust means distracting the mind and then sitting silently with one’s self and allowing the answer to come.  And trust means accepting the answer that comes to us through means other than through logic.

Has there been a time that you set an intention and trusted that it would come true?  Was there a time when you went with your gut and things turned out better than you could have imagined had you followed the logical course?  Share with us your experiences with intuition, intention, and trust.