Melissa Heisler

Harnessing the Power of Gratitude-Intention-Affirmation (GIA)

Recently I have been guided to increase, revise and recommit myself to my morning routine.  My practice was slacking a bit and it seemed to be missing some important elements.  Here is my current, recommitted routine.  Every morning for years now, I read the Daily Guide in Science of Mind magazine.  I always find these short articles to be thought provoking.  The messages usually help me start my day with compassion, understanding, and hope.  A new element I have added to my routine is “tapping.”  You may know tapping as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).  Basically it is a physical way to affect our mental programming.  After I have reset my energy and thoughts with tapping, I then meditate.  To rededicate myself to my routine, I have chosen a longer meditation to really ground and connect me.  Next I create my day using the power of GIA – Gratitude, Intention and Affirmation.  Gratitude, Intention and Affirmations are overlapping and very powerful tools.  Making Gratitude, Intention and Affirmation statements are the way you define how you see the world and how you expect to experience it.  GIA is the way to create your day.  Let’s explore the power of GIA.

Melissa Heisler

Gratitude

Gratitude frames the way we experience life.  Without Gratitude, our fear-seeking monkey-minds focus on lack.  For our survival, our minds normal state is to look for negativity so we can combat it and survive.  But negativity is not pleasurable to experience and more importantly it does not help motivate us to the next better.  Negativity tends to keep us stuck.  Writing a Gratitude list daily helps us to:

1)      Recognize the good we do have in our life.  Again our monkey-mind tends to focus us on the negative.  It is necessary to actively focus on the good.

2)      Frame our day in abundance instead of lack.  There is so much we have to be grateful for – air, shelter, clothing, the Internet, puppies.  The list we make can be our proof that things are good, full, prosperous, and abundant.

3)      Open us to more good.  When we start counting our blessings it empowers us to expect to receive more.

Usually I start my Gratitude List with something like:  “Thank you for another wonderful day of life.”  Feel free to define the “you” as you like.  Or when I am feeling giddy I might write, “Thank you for letting me wake up on the green side of the grass.”  Then I launch into all of those things I normally take for granted like air, food, shelter, friends, being able to read, etc.  Next I give thanks something wonderfully unexpected that happened the day before like receiving a new client or getting a prime parking spot.  Finally I say thank you for what I want.  These last statements are written in the present as if I have already received them like:  “Thank you for sending me the right clients at the right time” or “Thank you for guiding me to make the best decisions.”  There are no rules for content.  Just speak from the heart.

Gratitude for things we want to receive starts to blend into the area of Intention and Affirmation as those two are more focused on what is to come.  For some, Intention, Affirmation and Prayer are interchangeable.  For me, I like to differentiate Intention and Affirmation by the type of goal, desire, need, prayer is being requested.  Intention is about the physical world and our needs now.  Affirmation is about our state of being and experience.

Intention

Living your lifeIntention relates to our needs and desires outside of ourselves.  Intention is about relating to others, the world, our environment, and our day to day life.  You can create your Intention statements by answering questions like:  How do we want to relate to people?  What do we want to accomplish today, this week, this year?  How do we want to experience our job?  Where do we want our business or career to go?  What do we want to receive or own?  Where do we want to travel?  What do we want to experience like a play, concert, or exhibit?  Ask yourself what you want to do, own, or have.  Ask yourself how you want to be in relationship to others such as being a powerful speaker, setting boundaries, or being charismatic.  Write these statements in the present and in the affirmative for example, “I complete the work I set out to do today.”

For some it may be difficult to create Intentions because they are unclear about what they want, they believe they don’t deserve what they desire, or they believe their desire is impossible to have.  If this occurs for you, take the negative belief that comes up for you like “I don’t deserve to have a new iPod” and turn into an Affirmation “I deserve to receive all my heart desires.”  Let’s learn about Affirmations.

Affirmation

In contrast to Intention’s outward focus, I see Affirmations as focused on our internal experience.  Affirmations are how we want to be, how we want to experience life, how we want to act, and what we want to believe.  You can create your Affirmation statements by looking in great books like You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay and find Affirmations or belief statements to help you with current physical elements.  You can also create your own statements.  There are Affirmation statements which deal with our belief of the world and how the world works.  These usually begin with “I am” such as “I am safe” or “I am guided and supported to receive good.”  There are personal belief Affirmations which revolve around how we see ourselves.  Examples are “I accept and embrace my full power” and “I love and approve of myself.”  Then there are state of being Affirmations which set how we want to experience life such as “I find joy in every moment.”

 

I encourage you to try GIA out for a week and see how your mood, your environment, and your outcomes are affected.  Namaste.

It's My Life Inc.

Determination

log in the water with grass growing on top

I saw this grassy log at our marina the other day.  How the heck did the grass get on there?  And how did it grow so strong in such an unexpected spot?  Where there is a will, there is a way, right?  But what happens when the way seems bigger than one’s will?  Lately the theme of obstacles has been coming up for many of my clients and it is appearing in different ways.

For instance, one client sees little bumps in the road as warning signs that she is headed in the wrong direction.  When there is the least bit of resistance or difficulty instead of seeing it as a bump in the road and the normal blimps in getting something done, this client sees it as a strong message that she was not meant to have what she desires.  Does this happen to you? When it does, ask yourself what is your level of dedication and passion toward your desires?  Do you think you deserve it?  Are you afraid of rolling up your sleeves so you use “it’s not meant to be” as an excuse of not making an effort?  Why are you giving up on your dreams so quickly?

Or is the obstacle an honest message that this direction or goal is not appropriate for you?  To determine if the obstacle is a warning to change directions or a legitimate issue to overcome, check in with your effort.  If you are making a good effort and it feels like swimming through caramel, it is probably frustrating but in alignment with you.  On the other hand, if you are trying to force something to happen, trying to make it conform to your wishes, then it is probably out of alignment.  Check in with your own discernment.  Are you trying to make something work because it is the easy way out but not your true desires?  Or are you trying to fulfill the expectations of others?  Also be sure that you are not throwing the baby out with the bathwater.  An obstacle may not be a warning that your goals are off, but it may be a warning that the path you are on will not get you where you want to go.  Don’t give up your destination, just look for a new path.

Another way obstacles appear is mistaking potholes for the Grand Canyon.  So often our mind goes three or four steps past the current reality and makes a mountain out of a molehill.  It is like focusing on the obstacle of landing your first job as an attorney when you have not even started undergrad yet.  Yes, becoming an attorney may be your ultimate goal, but your challenge right now is completing your freshman year in college.  Keep your obstacles at pothole level so that you can continue to make progress.  Baby steps help you move forward so eventually you cross the Grand Canyon.

Keep your goal in mind and focus your efforts on that goal.  Don’t be deterred if you have to take a different path than you expected or if there are more bumps in the road than you would like.  Keep your eye on the prize and continue to make steps toward your goal.  They do not need to be huge leaps.  Do what you feel comfortable with but continue to make progress.  Your determination will help you accomplish your dreams.

It's My Life Inc.

A List for Santa

How many of us remember writing letters to Santa for Christmas gifts?

I know I would spend hours with the Sears Christmas catalog, scanning every page, imagining what it would be like to have this toy, that doll, or the latest board game.  (Collectible horses were my favorite.)  Then I would carefully write my list and post it on the refrigerator for all to see – and for Santa to fulfill.

When was the last time we took the same effort to determine and ask for what we want in our life?  You know, really looking at all the options out there, reviewing each one, mentally trying each one on for size, and then writing a wish list of how we desire to live.  My guess is that many of us do not take the time.  But what happened when we were young and responded, ” I don’t know” to Aunt Sally’s question of what we wanted?  That year’s gifts were tube socks, pajamas, and a well-meaning but misguided gift.

Not detailing what you want in life is like telling Aunt Sally, “I don’t know.”  There is no telling what you will receive, but my guess is that it will not be what you truly desire.  Instead take the time to uncover and spell out what you would like.  By defining what you want, your actions and efforts will be more focused on what it is that you want and amazing serendipity will appear – or in the very least by being aware of what you desire in your life you can identify what is in your life that you do not desire and you can work on making changes.

There are many lists we make during the holidays – what gifts to buy friends and family, to whom we are sending cards, and what we need for that big family meal.  I would like you to add one more list to your to do’s this holiday season.  Make a list of what you want in your life in 2010.  Look at your health, your prosperity, your career, your family, your relationships, where and how you live, your hobbies, and your faith.  This does not need to be a pie in the sky list of the million dollar job and Prince Charming arriving at your door, but truly review all aspects of your life.  What do you need in your life to feel content, to feel fulfilled, to feel happy?  Do you need an hour every night to connect to your friends on Facebook because you miss having your college buddies around?  Do you want to take knitting back up because you enjoy the creative nature of that hobby?  Do you want to begin studying a new subject to broaden your knowledge?  Do you want to gift yourself with good health by giving your body what it needs?

To make your list, find a nice piece of paper and create eight sections.  These sections can be columns or circles, or any visual configuration that works for you.  Label the sections: Business/Career, Fun & Recreation, Health, Romance, Physical Environment, Personal Growth, Finances, and Friends & Family. Under each section describe in detail what you would like.  Remember to include how you would feel if you had what you describe.  So instead of writing, “more friends,” try writing “laughing and joking with many friends.” The second description paints a visual and emotional picture of what you want to experience.  This picture will help you better determine when you have reached your goal.  Once you have your list, post it on your refrigerator so you can see it every day.  Check in with the list frequently to help you focus on creating the life that you truly desire.

Share your list with us to help focus and solidify your efforts and inspire others.  Happy Wishing!