What To Do When You Don’t Fit In – Lifeworks Psychotherapy

At one time in our life or another we feel like we don’t fit in. We feel like an outsider, like we don’t belong. We don’t feel understood and, even worse, we begin to feel like there is something wrong with us.

It does not matter if you feel excluded due to your ethnicity or religion, or if you feel outside society because you are lesbian, bi-sexual, gay, transgender, queer, kink, or polyamorous, the result is the same. You feel excluded by mainstream society. In addition to this you may not have the same rights and privileges as others.

Rami Henrich, LCSW, and Cindy Trawinski, Psy. D, of Lifeworks Psychotherapy in Chicago join The Empowerment Show to talk about ways we can accept others and ourselves on a deeper level. By fully seeing and embrace who we are, we can begin to move past our inner marginalization providing us with a platform to change societal marginalization.

Listen in to this discussion about marginalization between and within groups, inner marginalization, and how deep democracy may be able to help make a change to how we accept ourselves and others. By recognizing our underlying humanity, we can all start putting


Rami Henrich
Rami Henrich

Rami Henrich, L.C.S.W., is a licensed clinical social worker and a Diplomate in Process-oriented Psychology (or Process Work), as well as a founding partner of LifeWorks Psychotherapy Center and North Shore Psychotherapy Associates.  Rami has studied, taught and applied Process-oriented Psychology as developed by Arnold Mindell, Ph.D., for over 13 years.  She has a special interest in working with relationship difficulties and those who identify as living an alternative lifestyle.  Rami is also a certified Imago Relationship Therapist.

Cindy Trawinski
Cindy Trawinski

Cindy Trawinski, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Diplomate in Process-oriented Psychology (also known as Process Work) and a certified Imago Relationship Therapist.  She is a founding partner of LifeWorks Psychotherapy Center and North Shore Psychotherapy Associates and has offices in Skokie, IL.  Cindy is the former CEO of the Process Work Institute, in Portland, OR and a member of the International Association of Process-oriented Psychology (IAPOP), in Zurich, Switzerland. Cindy is also an assistant professor at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology where she teaches courses on Diversity and Multicultural Issues.

Elizabeth Williams-Riley

Individual and Collective Responsibility for Inclusion – Elizabeth Williams-Riley, American Conference on Diversity

As I was working on this show and post, a Sly & The Family Stone song came on the radio

There is a blue one who can’t accept the green one

For living with a fat one, trying to be a skinny one

And different strokes for different folks

At the same time I was alerted to an anti-Gay Christian group who is refusing letter with the Harvey Milk stamp.

Ah, we still have so much to learn about inclusion and diversity.

Elizabeth Williams-Riley
Elizabeth Williams-Riley

Check out this informative interview with Elizabeth Williams-Riley the President and CEO of the American Conference on Diversity. In this discussion we explore how implicit bias affects the way we relate to others and how our self-work on removing our prejudice can create a ripple effect in our community.

There are so many messages coming to us every day with blatant and subtle bias and assumptions about those who are different than us. It does not matter if the different is nationality, regionality, gender, sexual preference, disability, or socio-economic status there are implicit biases we all have consciously or unconsciously which affect how we act and react to others. By becoming aware of our implicit biases and how they affect our relationships we can decide if we want to keep them or if we want to learn a new way of being together.

Technology is also helping us as a society to become aware of our implicit biases. A recent instance of this is the Instagram post and audio recording of the racial remarks made by the owner of the Los Angeles Clippers, Donald Sterling. In the past comments such of these may have been made between a few individuals who have the same beliefs. Now the comments can be broadcast, commented on by people around the world, and hopefully used to help educate us as a society about our implicit biases.

Elizabeth says, “We’ve come a long way as far as people being disenfranchised, but we’re not dealing with implicit bias.” Listen in to learn how you can work on your own implicit bias, help the collective responsibility to make changes to our biases, and support school, community, and business programs which empower individuals to make changes around them.

You can learn more about these programs and become involved at www.AmericanConferenceonDiversity.org or by calling 732-745-9330

Together we can recover from bias and racism and learn to truly embrace our unique social identities while accepting those of others.