What To Do When You Don’t Fit In – Lifeworks Psychotherapy

At one time in our life or another we feel like we don’t fit in. We feel like an outsider, like we don’t belong. We don’t feel understood and, even worse, we begin to feel like there is something wrong with us.

It does not matter if you feel excluded due to your ethnicity or religion, or if you feel outside society because you are lesbian, bi-sexual, gay, transgender, queer, kink, or polyamorous, the result is the same. You feel excluded by mainstream society. In addition to this you may not have the same rights and privileges as others.

Rami Henrich, LCSW, and Cindy Trawinski, Psy. D, of Lifeworks Psychotherapy in Chicago join The Empowerment Show to talk about ways we can accept others and ourselves on a deeper level. By fully seeing and embrace who we are, we can begin to move past our inner marginalization providing us with a platform to change societal marginalization.

Listen in to this discussion about marginalization between and within groups, inner marginalization, and how deep democracy may be able to help make a change to how we accept ourselves and others. By recognizing our underlying humanity, we can all start putting

 

Rami Henrich
Rami Henrich

Rami Henrich, L.C.S.W., is a licensed clinical social worker and a Diplomate in Process-oriented Psychology (or Process Work), as well as a founding partner of LifeWorks Psychotherapy Center and North Shore Psychotherapy Associates.  Rami has studied, taught and applied Process-oriented Psychology as developed by Arnold Mindell, Ph.D., for over 13 years.  She has a special interest in working with relationship difficulties and those who identify as living an alternative lifestyle.  Rami is also a certified Imago Relationship Therapist.

Cindy Trawinski
Cindy Trawinski

Cindy Trawinski, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, a Diplomate in Process-oriented Psychology (also known as Process Work) and a certified Imago Relationship Therapist.  She is a founding partner of LifeWorks Psychotherapy Center and North Shore Psychotherapy Associates and has offices in Skokie, IL.  Cindy is the former CEO of the Process Work Institute, in Portland, OR and a member of the International Association of Process-oriented Psychology (IAPOP), in Zurich, Switzerland. Cindy is also an assistant professor at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology where she teaches courses on Diversity and Multicultural Issues.

Overcoming Challenges with a Fighting Spirit – Paul Delger

Sometimes our challenges seem insurmountable.  Between a tyrannical boss, needy children, and inattentive spouse we feel like we have daily battles to fight.  However these are all external battles.  What if our battle was with our own body?

Paul Delger
Paul Delger

Imagine being born with cerebral palsy and being restricted in the use of the right side of your body.  Imagine the physical challenges that would come from that ailment.  Then imagine the social stigma, especially as a child, you would receive.  Imagine the challenge of finding a job and being able to function in your position. 

These are all challenges Paul Delger faced and overcame.  Paul has battled these difficulties with a strong faith in God, a strong will and a sense of humor.  Paul now speaks to groups to motivate people to face their challenges with a fighting spirit.  Listen below to learn about Paul’s “fighting spirit” and how you can awaken your own.  Everything can be overcome.

 

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Financial Self-Care with Rebecca Bloomfield

The Empowerment ShowWomen are known for taking care of others.  Our biology is based on bringing others into the world and nurturing them.  There is such a blessing to that experience.  Whether it is our own children or raising a child for another, it is an amazing experience and responsibility to care for another.  However the frequent downfall is that women are so often caring for others that we have forgotten to care of ourselves.

As a life coach, I see this again and again.  The women I work with are so often focused on providing for others that they have forgotten to care for themselves.  Their health, well-being, happiness and goals are put on hold while taking care of others.  And there is a wonderful gift in giving to others.  It is a beautiful testament to the goodness of the soul.  Yet, unfortunately so often the gift is at the sacrifice of the giver.  Or one finds it difficult to give the same gift to others. This was the case for Rebecca Bloomfield.  The first time she found herself without a partner, she was driven to ensure the quality of life for her children.  She pushed herself to find a job that would not only support her family, but ensure her children could receive all of the luxuries other children could.  But the second time she discovered she was a widow, she was alone. The second time she didn’t have anyone else to provide for since her children were grown.  This time the only person she had to care for was herself.  And it was difficult.  She had never put herself first.  She had didn’t have the wellbeing of a helpless child to guide her.  This time she had to find the strength and reason to fight for her.  She had to discover that she was worth it to push herself make a living and to create a new life.

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The Power of Education for Environmental Projects with Nancy Pearlman

My first conscious memory that we had a responsibility to the environment was in the form of two public service announcements.  The first was a Native American crying by the side of the highway telling me not to litter.  The other was Smokey the Bear telling me that, “Only you can prevent forest fires.”  Obviously a lot has changed since then. Cannon_RiverThe importance of education has not.  Awareness is one of the first tools I teach my clients.  Without awareness, there is no change.  Without change, our current habits can cause permanent detrimental issues for us and those around us.  One of those issues revolves around how we treat Mother Earth. Mother Earth is a resilient being.  She has the ability to shift and change and evolve as we humans create new pollutants and unnatural forms that do not easily or quickly break down.  She is a more powerful being than we are.  But we don’t have to make it tough on her.  And if we leave it up to her, she could make catastrophic changes that would affect the human race. Simple awareness is needed.  Are we creating in unison with the earth or are we creating things that harm the current environment?  Are we doing all we can to recycle, reuse, or repurpose what we purchase?  Are we consciously consuming?  Simple changes in our daily habits can make large impacts to the planet we call home. Nancy Pearlman is no stranger to the world of environmental education.  She coordinated the first Earth Day in Southern California back in the 1970’s.  ENVIRONMENTAL DIRECTIONS, her international weekly radio series, was started in 1977 and is now the longest-running environmental radio series in the country, with over 2,000 shows to date.  As Executive Producer and Host of the three-time EMMY-nominated environmental television series ECONEWS, Nancy covers every ecological issue.  Over her forty year career she has worked with hundreds of conservation organizations, serving as administrator, founder, member of advisory councils, participant, and member of boards of directors. She founded the Ecology Center of Southern California in 1972 and Project Ecotourism in 1993, Humanity and the Planet in 2001, Earth Cultures in 2004, and Nancy Pearlman, the Eco-Traveler in 2007.

Listen to Nancy Pearlman on The Empowerment Show to discussing the power of environmental education.

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Communication is Hard with Brian R. King

Communication can be difficult.  Misunderstandings, misconceptions, and assumptions abound.  We hear what we want to hear and not what is said.  We react with our past emotions and memories versus reacting to the truth of the moment.  We misinterpret and we get hurt.  We feel fearful of speaking our truth and being ridiculed or abandoned.

The Empowerment ShowTalking to one another is something we do every day.  Whether we do it in person, over the phone, online or via text, we are in constant communication with each other.  But how much of that communication is productive?  And how much of what we say or don’t say causes issues with our relationships? It does not matter if we are talking about our personal relationships or business relationships, improving our communication skills can improve our all our interpersonal relationships.  When we are communicating well, we can get more done.  When we can talk to each other better, we can learn new things.  When we can truly hear another, we are gifted with insights we would not have otherwise had.  When we learn to truly communicate with each other we can find peace, joy, happiness, and love. Over the years I have worked hard at improving my communication.  First I learned to listen.  Truly listen.  Not listen while I crafted my response.  Not listen and interrupting to defend myself.  Not pretending to listen while I created my grocery list.  But truly listening intently to who is speaking and giving them my full focused attention. My second lesson was learning how to distinguish between what was really being said and what I thought was being said.  We all have our own personal way to view the world.  Our past experiences, backgrounds, likes and dislikes, hurts and challenges have all affected how we interpret situations.  This is often what causes issues in relationships.  Our partner says one thing and our filters change the meaning before it reaches us.  Then an argument erupts over a misunderstanding.  Learning to truly hear the other and to be able to express how a comment unintentionally triggers us can save many a marriage and business partnership.

Brian R. King
Brian R. King author of Perfect Moments in Relationships: Lessons in Connection for Work, Family, Love, and Life

Learn how to communicate better in your relationships at work and home when The Empowerment Show is joined by Brian R. King best-selling author of five books, including Perfect Moments in Relationships: Lessons in Connection for Work, Family, Love, and Life. Brian says, “Relationships can be more difficult to navigate than the ocean at night during a hurricane. Now try doing it with touches of Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia and other challenges. This has been my struggle, but also my greatest gift.” Discover Brian’s proven methods to improve your communication skills and your relationships.

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