Every year I provide insight into how to make the most of the New Year. In the past I have written about:
- How to use intentions to keep you from blowing your resolutions.
- How life gets in the way of our resolutions and plans.
- How you can’t create a new starts, but you can create a new ending.
- How taking on a new persona, even for one day, can help us see our lives differently allowing us to find new solutions.
This year I’d like to explore how to make things happen by not making things happen. Much of what we do in Western Society is by force and sheer will. We are the courageous pioneers. We have a strong work ethic. We have even devoured the concept of Law of Attraction where we create a vision of what we want and through our focus we make it happen.
But what if we didn’t have to make things happen? What if in doing less we received more? What if we had this whole no pain no gain thing wrong?
Instead of focusing on outside manifestation – writing down goals, creating plans, creating our vision boards – we instead focused on inside channels. Do you know someone who was amazing at earning money, but never seemed to be able to keep it? Or someone who could lose large sums of weight, but it always seemed to come back? Or the person who always met the most amazing romantic partners, but could never sustain a relationship? These people were all focusing on the exterior – the money, the weight, the partner. What they didn’t work on was their inner self, and without that inner work nothing they ever create will remain.
To make lasting changes in your life, it is first important to work on your inner self. The goal is to have a clean inner channel of thought and energy within you to use as your guide. What does that mean? It means to remove all the anger and hate within you. It means removing all the fear of the future. It means fully loving and accepting yourself. It means accepting those around you as they are. It means being fully in each and every moment. Once you have removed all of the negativity from your thoughts and emotions, you are left with a positive emptiness in the center of your body; a clean shaft between your mind and your heart. This is the channel that helps you receive. And it is the way for you not to make things happen but to allow your best to come to you.
Think about times when you are not as productive. Were you clear-minded or were your thoughts muddled? Were you acting consciously or unconsciously? Were you acting from a position of expectation or fear? When we are not our best is when our internal channels are blocked with anger, hate, fear, worry, and anxiety. When we are productive and in the flow, we are confident, hopeful, expectant, loving, compassionate.
So how do you make things happen without making things happen?
Release: Release the fear and the hate. Identify what your worries are and who or what is making you angry. Notice how it feels to be angry and fearful. Ask yourself how the anger and fear is serving you (note: they usually aren’t). Write down all of your fear or anger then tear up and/or safely burn the paper releasing you from it.
Stay in the Moment: Fear lives in the future and anger lives in the past. To keep them from entering your mindspace again, stay in the present moment. Use your five senses to fully be awake in each moment and stay present.
Ask: Take the time to get clear on what you really want. The goal is to find the experiential value you want – peace, excitement, love, confidence – not the physical world manifestation. If you can only think of the physical thing you want, explore how that thing will make you feel; the feeling is what you truly desire. Every day focus on these feelings you want to experience and be open to them appearing in the best way for you.
Discern: Throughout the day notice if how you are thinking, believing and acting is bringing you the emotions you want to experience. If not, how can you shift to be more in alignment with what you desire? The same goes for your choices throughout the day. When opportunities arise, don’t look at what you “should” do but instead ask if accepting this opportunity will bring you the emotional experience you desire.
When you release what doesn’t serve you, are in the moment, are clear about what you want to experience, are expectant you will receive what is best for you, and take the time to consider your behavior and options versus your desired experience, you will begin receiving what you really want – without all the effort.
If you want to learn first-hand how to live and receive differently, contact me to learn more about one-to-one coaching and upcoming retreats.